Anyone who’s been single for a substantial amount of time will understand the feeling of emptiness which occasionally occurs during the odd spells of men drought. Don’t get me wrong – by no means do I think the single life is empty – far from it, I am a firm believer in singles living far more exciting, fulfilled lives than many couples. However, when you haven’t had a date for a while, or even if you have, but haven’t met anyone who gives you even the slightest urge to rush home and rip their clothes off, you can start to forget you’re a woman and wonder if you’re ever going to feel that blissful new crush rush ever again!
I have just emerged from one of these droughts into an exciting new fling but have one major concern. I am absolutely certain that I will never want to marry this man! Accuse me of being old fashioned or taking life too seriously, but I’m not sure there’s a point embarking on any sort of relationship if you know from the beginning that it’s not going anywhere. I am happy for the moment and I certainly enjoy being lavished with attention; but I cannot ignore the voice niggling in the back of my head telling me to stop wasting my time.
Much as I enjoy an active and spontaneous single life, deep down what I really want is to find a man who I can eventually settle down with and have babies! At the same time, I am only a hot blooded woman, who needs some fun to break the monotony of waiting for that man to find me. This poses the dilemma of whether the short term fix of having fun and filling that void for now will prevent me from achieving my ultimate goal of finding a husband.
Should we only pursue something which has the potential to fulfil our long term dreams, or is it worth staying with someone right now who is not right forever?
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Carrie Bradshaw eat your heart out ;-)
It's a hard one. So many guys seem to be in it for a good time not a long time. I don't know what the answer is, but I think maybe guys need to consider womens long term objectives and women need to live more in the moment. I hope you figure it out!
Hi,
You really have articulated the dilemma excellently...'tis sooooo hard to know what to do...unfortunatley I can't offer advice - but I wish you good luck in the decision making process!
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Thank you for your wise words Sister Thelma - I will certainly take them on board x
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